This is an idea I first saw/heard Music by Loah talk about - the hate scale. How small acts of racism add up to the maximum end of the scale where your life is in danger. I introduce the origins of European racism and American. The cultural experiences which allow us to absorb these; Alvin Ailey's Greenwood, Small Island by Andrea Levy, A Rasin in the sun by Lorrain Handsbeery, Barracoon by Zora Neale Hurston, 12 years a slave. The writing of Alice Walker, Toni Morrison and James Baldwin.
How it's not enough to just say you are not racist or anti-racist. That you don't have these assumptions - you have to take actions that allow the realties of others lives to change.
Now that lockdown starts to lift I see many nervous unsafe and unhappy employees. We now have hard evidence of how the virus transmits and know how to create safety. But I fear many mangers are being driven by their personalities and the perception of customers over the reality of what needs to be done for everyone's happiness and safety.
The reality is ceratin personalities make better decisions on safety and protocols that can be followed easily by others. Maybe we need to pick the people within companies to have these roles? Hint they are not the usual extrovert sensing personalities that often rise higher in these roles - they are the quieter workers who pause more before actions.
shout out to Helen Barry Arts face shields for staff. (helenbarryarts on instagram)
We need to understand that there is a hidden energy need in all successful social media posts - unless you have lost all privacy for other reasons. And that comes with a responsibility too. We all need to look at our part we play - how we need to privately support people. How we need teens to understand this is not a measure of self and validation or how much impact they can make in the world.
I use the Alice Walker quote from a Color Purple - “I try to teach my heart not to want nothing it can't have.”
From a piece Soul Level, I wrote; So I must apply the wisdom of Alice Walker - I can't crave something that I can't have. I can't judge myself based on a world which doesn't operate at a soul level. Well, at least not publicly. I must hold all those private worlds dear. Know they mean so much more than any meaningless fan base. That the level of public engagement never can tell what they have meant privately to the soul of the reader.
I'm not afraid to show my own evolution over the last 5 years. That's true development. A new introduction to the Purple Psychology Podcast. No presenter just Dr Naoisé O'Reilly's understanding. What these podcasts are about and why.
Essays in Awareness act as companion writing found at (drnaoiseoreilly dot org)
The challenges of dating regardless of if you're 15, 35 or 55! What is ghosting - why do we fall into the trap of it? Why people find dating so hard. What relationships do I admire and why? It's not what you might think. Dating for growth. The importance of parents dating and why.
Essay in Awareness - Heart over mind (drnaoiseoreilly dot org)
More on Lorraine Hansberry and Robert Nemiroff found in books - To Be Young, Gifted, and Black: An Informal Autobiography and Looking for Lorraine (Imani Perry)
Start by explaining the name. Facts. The Whys. Having an escape plan if things go wrong. How to feel safe. Community-based. A shout out to Helen Barry Artist for her child's face shield! Take a look at my Instagram (drnaoiseoreilly) for a short video with more information.
We get too focused on roles. What do girls need from their fathers? What did I see that successful women had from theirs? What have I seen that is missing from others I've worked with?
Nothing new that has ever been created has been embraced. I have to remind myself of this as I stay true to what I'm creating - knowing it has a soul of its own and a big lasting impact for us to finally see the world full of difference. To lose our biases once and for all. How I see those biases so proudly in relation to black people. How I have experienced them in a different way.
I talk about James Baldwin's essay - A Fly In the Buttermilk (original title The Hard Kind Of Courage)
My own short writing I speak about can be found at Essays in Awareness on drnaoiseoreilly dot org - Unfortunately, my books are only availbe to trusted readers right now...
People often say to me that parenting has become harder in this generation. Has it? Why do we feel this way? What are we being asked to match and unravel in ourselves? What part do roles play?
What are we really talking about with twin flames and the ideas of divine masculine and feminine energy? Do you have an awareness of both within you? Do you form relationships for balance? For mutual growth. Do you get beyond the hurdles of the assumptions that intimacy has to be sexual? Why I struggle with pride season every year. The assumed roles.